Just because we’re magic doesn’t mean we aren’t real.
I was listening to SHEnanigans Podcast at the nail salon the other day working on my Self-care and the topic of conversation was natural hair and not just praise for natural hair, like you would assume, but the hierarchy of natural hair in the black community. Whether we decide to wear out crowns in from, braids, curls or weave every body seems to have an opinion, and notes one opinion but one for everytime we change our hair or of which hair style they prefer (unsolicited of course) or my favorite; which African American celebrity we really look nothing alike but they can’t stop comparing us to. Now I’ve already discussed microagressions so I won’t hop on that soap box.
Natural hair has been a growing trend, like the marriage between baby hairs and toothbrushes for the past couple years with the uses of relaxers on the decline hopefully like adults in jelly sandals. But; with all the praise, and commentary, and criticism we have to hear about our crowns I couldn’t help but hear us talk about us, and judge us for which style we prefer (as if we aren’t judged enough already) a Hierarchy so to speak about the level of blackness exemplified by how we choose to rock our crowns. A the top oft hierarchy is Dreadlocks with afros and twist/braid outs following close behind. After that seems to be protective styles like braids and twists with straightened still natural hair following behind. Weaves are near the bottom of the hierarchy only notches above Permed relaxed hair.
The issue lies in there being a hierarchy at all. Similar to the light skin, dark skin debate (which we’ll talk abut soon) it puts unnecessary rifts in a homogeneous community with pre-existing foundation cracks. Its like those nasty trees and telephone poles that have all the flyers and left over staples in them and we just keep adding more before we remove the previous. No matter where we are, even at work we are subjected to the unwarranted opinions of those who don’t understand and look for inappropriate ways to connect with our crowns and our culture. Tear down the stereotypes and lift your sister up, at home and in the office. Some are fighting battles we know nothing about. Hair shouldn’t be one of them.
be kind and wear your hair girl, however you wish.